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For Recovering Parents…

As a student therapist, I’m running several therapy groups independently.  In an effort to organize my efforts, I’m starting individual web pages for each class I’m teaching.  This material is for a  parents in recovery class…
This is where I plan on keeping links to sources of information used in class….
Keep in mind, the information below is not intended to be a replacement for individualized or group therapy. Neither is it to be considered a dispensation of advice. I’m not an expert in this field, only a student, who’s eager to learn.

Essential Reading…

(((by no means comprehensive, just key sources I’ve used as a starting using as key resources while putting together the curriculum for this class)))

Bornstein, M. H. (Ed.). (2005). Handbook of parenting: Volume 4 Social conditions and applied parenting. Psychology Press.

Center for Substance Abuse Treatment. (2004). Substance Abuse Treatment and Family Therapy. Retrieved from:  http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK64269/

Juhnke, G. A., & Hagedorn, W. B. (2013). Counseling Addicted Families: An Integrated Assessment and Treatment Model. Routledge[/row]

Week One Material

The Idea: Addiction & Arrested Development.

FireShot Capture 5 - erikson's eight stages - Google Search_ - https___www.google.com_searchIn my first week, I discussed Erikson’s 8 Stages of Man, utilizing handouts a previous intern put together.  Started with a review of Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development.  Then defined the concept of arrested development by discussing how addiction can influence a person’s psychosocial growth.  Concluded with two “round table discussion”.  Afterwards utilized Restorative Parenting Curriculum resource MAtthews, n.s.) to reflect on areas of arrested development in their own childhood.  Utilized exercise #21: “My Experience As A Child” (Matthews, n.d., p.30). Then participants reflect on how their addiction has influenced their child’s development.  Utilized modified version of exercise #24 “Developmental Stages & Violence” (Matthews, n.d., p. 33).p — (((excluding violence concept and replacing it with addiction)))

The Resource: (expands upon this topic with 8-week curriculum)

Baron, A., & Spear, H. Surviving Dysfunctional Families. (n.d.). Retrieved from:  https://www.cmhc.utexas.edu/clearinghouse/files/TI055.pdf

Matthews, L. (n.d.) Restorative Parenting Curriculum. Retrieved from: http://www.globalvp.umn.edu/documents/fathering/Restorative%20Parenting_Curri.pdf

Finally, here are my thoughts on the subject of arrested development, as it has pertained to my own life

Week Two Material…

The Idea:  Stages of Recovery for Families….

This online resource comes from a Recovery Program in Vermont, who had published session one of a curriculum for addicted families.  It begins with a definition of the addicted family and the developmental processes which occur as an addict advances in their recovery.   Changes to the environment and family system are described in five key stages: (1) active addiction, (2) transition, (3) early recovery, (4) ongoing recovery. In class we reviewed these concepts then shared where our families were in the recovery process.  Finally, we reviewed both personal and family beliefs about what recovery means…

The Resource: (Includes session one of an unpublished curriculum)

Brown, S. and Lewis, V. (n.d.) Maintaining Abstinence Program. Retrieved from: https://vtrecoverynetwork.org/data/Recovery_Symposium/MAPSFamiliesinRecovery-%20Stages%20of%20Recovery%20(2).pdf

Finally, here is my own perspective on “recovery” and how it affected those around me…

Week Three Material…

The Idea:  Stages of Recovery for Families cont…. (detachment)

imageWill utilize Lessons 1-3 of curriculum listed below.  First start with key points from lesson one on denial, projection and alienation from self/others.  Next, review insights from Lesson two on effects of addiction & process of recovery for a family,  Finally, skip to lesson three on the first step of family recovery: detachment.  How much we will recove depends on degree of active participation from the group.  Can also utilize exercises from Restorative Parenting Curriculum (Matthews, n.d.), For Example:

*Exercise one “Framework of Resourcefulness” (Matthews, n.d.) – Aimed at increasing understanding of child’s perceptions.

*Exercise seven: “On the Restoration Journey” & Exercise ten: “Re Establishing My Parenthood” (Matthews, n.d,) – Restoring Parenting Relationship…

Resource: 10 Week Curriculum For Families in Recovery…

Dunklin Northland Church (n.d.) Family Recovery: A workbook from chemical dependency. Retrieved from:  http://www.northlandchurch.net/resourcepoint/img/family_recovery.pdf

Matthews, L. (n.d.) Restorative Parenting Curriculum. Retrieved from: http://www.globalvp.umn.edu/documents/fathering/Restorative%20Parenting_Curri.pdf

Week Four Material…

The Idea: Basic Parenting Skills.

imageIn this class I plan on reviewing five basic parenting skills: Encouragement, can do, choices, self-control & respect feelings. Begin by reviewing each parenting skill & then continue with the role play exercises as described.  This serves the purpose of allowing participants practice these skills. Can also utilize restorative parenting activity resource (modify prn) to provide opportunities to further reflect on the importance of these skills. For Example:

*For Encouragement Skill (Bailry, et al, 1995) Utilize exercise #6 “Father Messages” (Mattherws, n.d., p. 11) — ( utilize in gender neutral manner)

*For Can do Skill (Bailry, et al, 1995) Utilize exercise #16 “Discipline through New Eyes” (Matthews, n.d., p. 25), or #15 “Developing a New Commication Style” (Matthewws, n.d., p. 23).

Resource

Bailey, J., Perkins, S., & Wilkins, S. (1995). Parenting Skills Workshop Series. Retrieved from:   http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.414.6568&rep=rep1&type=pdf

Matthews, L. (n.d.)  Restorative Parenting Curriculum. Retrieved from:  http://www.globalvp.umn.edu/documents/fathering/Restorative%20Parenting_Curri.pdf

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Who THE HELL do you think you are anyway?!?!

Understanding Shame…

imageIn a previous post I review a favorite self-help author of mine, Brene Brown (link above). I first learned about her from a now-famous Ted Talk video (see link above). Through her work, I was first introduced to the concept of shame: “an intensely painful feeling that we are flawed, and therefore unworthy of accepting and belonging” (Brown, 2006, p45). In this post, I’d like to continue with this train of thought & share some insights on how to recognize shame. While no real preventative cure to shame exists, if you are aware of what triggers feelings of shame, you’re empowered to grow beyond its confines. What follows are insights I’ve recorded in an old journal based on Brene Brown’s work on shame resilience….

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Personal Identity – on being full of hot air…

EmperorOne night after my family went to bed, I began my homework. While sifting through journal articles, the above quote jumped out at me. In light of recent affairs, it forced me to stop and think. At this point in life, I’m working hard to overcome old patterns and “get unstuck”. In addition to working on a Master’s degree, I’m trying to pay off some debt, and lose weight. As I work on accomplishing these goals, (and overcome a few old vices), I hope to maximize my efforts with a bit of radical self-responsibility. The idea that my hard work could yield another hamster-wheel experience frightens me.

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Ego vs. Shadow

imageI found this strange table in an old journal titled “ego vs. shadow”. It described the consequences of denying certain parts of myself while presenting other parts to the world. I’m sure its a byproduct of the Jungian and Transactional Analysis stuff I’ve been reviewing. Since I thought you might find it entertaining, I’ve reproduced it here. This divisiveness of self starts out with a description of my hidden self and lived self. Keep in mind, I wouldn’t describe it as an iteration of theory but instead application of insights.

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On Being Contrarian…

fddAs a mother, therapy student, and healthcare worker, it seems the majority of my time is spent in the care of others. As a Healer INFP personality type this endeavor suits my personality for the most part. However, as time has progressed, I’ve come to the realization that I’m becoming the adaptive reaction to others’ needs. I have so little say in who I am becoming. Everybody’s “baggage” tends to pile up after a long week. When I review the endless needs, thoughts, feelings, and desires of the people I care for after a long week, an “F’d” up hall of mirrors presents itself. Within each individual’s worldview are a set of perceptual distortions and I find I become lost in the mixed. I am unseen behind what other people tend to project upon me….

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Arrested Development??? (Erickson)

FireShot Capture 5 - erikson's eight stages - Google Search_ - https___www.google.com_search
Erik Erikson proposed a theory of personality development that includes eight stages.  In each stage we face developmental crises in order to develop a sense of identity alongside interpersonal beliefs through interactions with significant others (Broderick & Blewitt, 2010).  According to Erikson, two potential outcomes can result depending on how we address and resolve each developmental crisis [for each stage]…

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